Where have you been giving your power away?
I'm sitting in a corner café as I write this, the sun resting on my face and the first signs of spring giving me that sense of new possibility.
While I look out of the window and people watch, I notice myself coming back to a theme that has been showing up so much in my work recently. How often we give our power away, often to the detriment of ourselves.
It's something I see a lot in the people I work with, and something I've touched in my own life too, although in a different way. I've always had a strong sense of myself, always questioned things, always felt that pull to walk my own path, to say no when something doesn't feel right, and to trust that.
And yet, even with that, I can still recognise how easy it is to be influenced, to feel the pressure of expectations, to notice the subtle ways the world tries to shape you. Because we are all moving within that.
The small, unnoticeable moments
Giving our power away rarely looks dramatic. It shows up in the small, almost unnoticeable moments. Saying yes when something in you actually meant no. Staying in situations that don't feel right because it's easier than facing what it would mean to choose differently.
And over time, those moments build. Not in a way that feels sudden or dramatic, but in a way that slowly pulls you further away from yourself, until there's just this subtle sense that something feels off, even if you can't fully explain why.
I think many of us have been conditioned, in ways we don't even question, to look outside of ourselves for direction. To parents, to teachers, to partners, to society, to whatever feels more certain than our own inner voice. And in doing that, we begin to place more trust in those external opinions than in our own.
I see this especially in women. How naturally we can attune to others, how quickly we can prioritise keeping the peace or being liked, and how easily that can turn into slowly giving our power away, not all at once, but in so many small, repeated ways that it becomes normal.
The shift into self responsibility
At some point, there has to be a shift. Not in a harsh or blaming way, but in an honest way, where we start to look at our lives and ask ourselves where we have been waiting. Waiting for someone to choose us. Waiting for someone to fix us. Waiting until we feel ready or certain before taking a step.
Because life doesn't really work like that, at least not if you want to actually live it, to expand, to experience something beyond what is already known. It asks something of you. It asks you to take tangible risks, to move towards things that feel uncertain, to say yes to opportunities or experiences that you can't fully control or predict, and to trust that you will meet yourself there.
When you really begin to question where you have been giving your power away, something deeper starts to surface. Something that was already there, but perhaps buried.
The quiet current beneath it all
The psyche, the soul, that deeper part of you that doesn't operate from logic or conditioning, but from a kind of inner sense that you may have learned to ignore over time. It doesn't shout. It's more like a quiet current that keeps rising, even when you override it, even when you choose what feels safer or more acceptable.
I sometimes think: if we had been taught from a young age how to actually listen to ourselves, how to question, how to feel into what is true for us rather than just being told what is right or wrong, how different things might be. How much more connected we would feel to ourselves.
Where it begins
But this is where we are. And maybe this is where it begins. Not with having everything figured out, but with awareness. With noticing where you are still handing yourself over, and slowly, choice by choice, beginning to take that back. Not perfectly, not all at once, but in a way that is real.
This space, where something is shifting but not fully clear yet, where you can feel that something in you is waking up but the new hasn't quite landed, this is the space I care about deeply. Supporting people in this in-between, where the old ways no longer feel true, but the new way of being hasn't fully formed yet.
Where there is uncertainty, but also possibility.
Let’s work together
▸1-1 coaching journeys using sound, somatic connection, and meditation to support you into real clarity.
▸Group coaching in Oslo, an intimate space to explore life honestly and realise you're not alone in any of it.
▸ Medicine retreat this summer for those who feel called into something deeper and more transformational.
If something in you has been stirred as you read this, you'll know. Feel free to reach out.
